Tag Archives: need to control

The Control—Misery Link

A friend recently shared, “The more I try to control things in my life, the more miserable I become.  In fact, the misery in my life is directly proportional to how much I try to control things.” I, of course, … Continue reading

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Intentions for Letting Go of Control in 2016

Still feel the need to control too much in your life?   Setting intentions for letting go of control is one of the best ways in which to reduce the need or compulsion to control people and things and enjoy the … Continue reading

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The Link Between Addiction and Control

The lives of addicts often reel out of control. Many feel ashamed and powerless over their addiction and many things in their lives. To counter their anxiety and attempt to gain some semblance of control in their lives, they try … Continue reading

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Intentions for Letting Go of Control in 2015

Have you set your intentions for 2015 yet? Because of their importance to my serenity, I annually review and update my intentions for letting go of control. Such intentions are highly effective in reducing our need or compulsion to control … Continue reading

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10 Ways the Need to Control Hurts You

Many people call them control freaks.   Some call them controllers.  Others refer to them as nitpickers and micromanagers.  Whatever you call them, they all have one clear thing in common: The Need to Control. Hence, the subtitle of my book … Continue reading

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The Confidence/Control Connection

I am always exploring the connections between our feelings and emotions, behavior patterns and our propensity to control—or not control–others and outcomes.   Certain control catalysts are quite clear—fear, anger, anxiety, for instance–and I have written about them extensively in this … Continue reading

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Control and Impermanence

One of the illusions about control is that many of us believe we can significantly alter or impact the natural flow of things, or as I like to say, “life’s natural currents.”  I write about the folly of control in … Continue reading

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Intentions for Letting Go of Control in 2013

Because of their importance to my serenity, I annually review and update my intentions for letting go of control.  Such intentions are highly effective in reducing our need or compulsion to control others and things.   Below are my intentions … Continue reading

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Control Troubles in Paradise

I think most people (myself included) take vacations to take a break from their busy, and at times hectic and stressful lives.    Vacations give us the opportunity to spend unhurried quality time with friends and family, or just simply to … Continue reading

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The Faith-Control Connection

In this blog and in Losing Control, Finding Serenity: How the Need to Contol Hurts Us and How to Let It Go, I discuss decontrol tools and strategies that reduce the compulsion or need to control in vital areas of … Continue reading

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