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5 Ways High Expectations Hurt You

In Losing Control, Finding Serenity, I explain how high expectations are a driving force behind our need to control our loved ones, children, friends and others. High expectations of others pressure them to do and be what we want, or … Continue reading

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Benefits of Accepting Your Child’s Path

Many parents pressure their children to follow the same paths they followed, or ones that they believe are “best” for them, particularly with regard to education and vocation decisions, religious choices, and cultural and social activities.   These parents are typically … Continue reading

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Acceptance, Expectations, and Control: Vital Links

There are vital links or connections between acceptance, expectations, and the need to control.   That’s why they are such an integral part of the discourse on this blog and in my book, Losing Control, Finding Serenity: How the Need to … Continue reading

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Adrian Gonzalez Knows How to Let Go of Control for Peak Performance

Sports stars seem to easily recognize the types of controlling actions that severely undermine peak performance. Adrian Gonzalez, a prolific home run hitter, is the most recent athlete to do so. The Los Angeles Dodgers paid a huge amount ($126 … Continue reading

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Albert Pujols–The Way Out of Your Slump

Poor Albert Pujols.   All those high expectations from fans, the owner–and  himself. And why not?   A $240 million dollar contract can drum up a lot of expectations. Is there thus any wonder why Albert is slumping so terribly?    Undue expectations … Continue reading

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How to Lower Family Expectations

High expectations of others plant the seeds for disappointment and resentment. Whether assertive or subtle, expecting too much of others pressures them to act and be, as we want them to. At its core, it is our attempt to control … Continue reading

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Tips for Letting Go of High Expectations

In my last post I shared the intentions for 2012 that I felt would allow me to let go of more control in my life.  A key one was  “moderate my expectations.”  As I have mentioned before, unrealistic expectations propel … Continue reading

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Let Go of Control by Moderating Your Expectations

Many of us recognize the benefits of letting go of control and have a strong desire to do so, but struggle with it.  That’s perfectly understandable when you consider that we have been raised and have always lived in a … Continue reading

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