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The Trust—Control Dynamic

Many of us have trust issues and are control freaks. Have you ever thought about the connection or dynamic between control and trust? Or more specifically, about how trust impacts our ability to let go of control? To be truthful, … Continue reading

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Control and Impermanence

One of the illusions about control is that many of us believe we can significantly alter or impact the natural flow of things, or as I like to say, “life’s natural currents.” This is why our friends or loved ones … Continue reading

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Finding Serenity

As the author of Losing Control, Finding Serenity, I am sometimes asked what I mean by “serenity.” I realize that serenity means different things to different people.    For many, it means peace and tranquility.   For others, it means harmony.    I’ve … Continue reading

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Losing Control, Finding Flow

We often hear people talk about “going with the flow” when discussing  how they intend to deal with important issues and challenges in their lives.   I think for most, that means they wish to engage matters as they naturally arise, … Continue reading

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Charm and the Flow of Life

One of the unexpected joys of writing this blog is my learning from the insights and wisdoms of others who are similarly seeking a state of grace in which we feel grounded, aware, and at peace. What I find enlightening … Continue reading

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Kobe Bryant Admits His Control Mentality Disrupts the Lakers

This past month has been an extremely disappointing time for the world champion Los Angeles Lakers.  They not only lost big to their prime time opponents, the Miami Heat, but to decidedly weaker teams as well.   Following a recent lopsided … Continue reading

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Enhance Your Intuition by Letting Go of Control

I have found that trusting my sound intuition invariably results in my making much better life decisions—particularly with respect to those situations that involve numerous pros and cons, or in which not all the key facts are known. Not everyone … Continue reading

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Let Go of Control by Moderating Your Expectations

Many of us recognize the benefits of letting go of control and have a strong desire to do so, but struggle with it.  That’s perfectly understandable when you consider that we have been raised and have always lived in a … Continue reading

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How to Let Go and Lose Control: An Introduction to the DeControl Yourself Blog

As I have begun sharing and speaking about the benefits of giving up control, it has been especially rewarding that my message has resonated so strongly with people.  I have found that so many people are ready to let go.  … Continue reading

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