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Should You Accept the “Unacceptable?”

PART ONE  In speaking with people about their acceptance stories for the new book I’m writing, The Blessings of Acceptance, I am often asked “why should I accept the unacceptable?”  My short response is, “You’ve already answered that by your … Continue reading

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5 Common Myths of Control Freaks

Most control freaks live a life filled with grand illusions and myths about the efficacy of control.  Here are five common myths that control freaks harbor:   Control Freaks Myth #1: The power to significantly change others. Truth: The only … Continue reading

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The Control—Misery Link

A friend recently shared, “The more I try to control things in my life, the more miserable I become.  In fact, the misery in my life is directly proportional to how much I try to control things.” I, of course, … Continue reading

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Should You Tell Your Loved One About Your Past Addiction?

  Guest Post by Anne Southern Over 20 million Americans struggle with some form of substance addiction, whether to drugs or alcohol (this does not include the many million more who are also addicted to tobacco) Despite this huge body of … Continue reading

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Do Your Loved One’s Political Views Anger You?

The current divisive political climate becomes even more divisive when the political choices of our loved ones are contrary to our own.   For example, what if you are for Clinton, and they are for Trump?  If you are for … Continue reading

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The Blessings of Acceptance

Contribute Your Acceptance Story to my New Book and Receive $50 plus a Free Signed Copy! Do you have a personal story about how you accepted someone as they are–annoying traits and all? A love one, boss, parents, or estranged sibling—even … Continue reading

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Accepting Your Foes Helps!*

Reading the above title, you may be thinking, “Why should I accept people who are trying to harm or cause me trouble?   They are the last people I would want to accept!” I know I used to feel that way. … Continue reading

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The Link Between Addiction and Control

The lives of addicts often reel out of control. Many feel ashamed and powerless over their addiction and many things in their lives. To counter their anxiety and attempt to gain some semblance of control in their lives, they try … Continue reading

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Are You a Love Controller?

Love control obstructs the romantic flow.   It forces the action, rather than allowing the love currents to unfold naturally so that people can relax and just be themselves—and offer their love and kindness without pressure or expectations.  Simply put, most … Continue reading

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Letting Go of Control Truths

“Let go of control. You never had it in the first place!” Not sure you agree?   Then, consider this: “If you always do what you always did, you always get what you always got. So let go of control to … Continue reading

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