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The Control—Misery Link

A friend recently shared, “The more I try to control things in my life, the more miserable I become.  In fact, the misery in my life is directly proportional to how much I try to control things.” I, of course, … Continue reading

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Intentions for Accepting Others as They Are in 2017

As we begin a year of great uncertainty, and for many, great fear and anxiety, it is important to consider what we can do to bring greater peace and serenity into our lives and those we love.   For me, that … Continue reading

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Do Your Loved One’s Political Views Anger You?

The current divisive political climate becomes even more divisive when the political choices of our loved ones are contrary to our own.   For example, what if you are for Clinton, and they are for Trump?  If you are for … Continue reading

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Accepting Your Foes Helps!*

Reading the above title, you may be thinking, “Why should I accept people who are trying to harm or cause me trouble?   They are the last people I would want to accept!” I know I used to feel that way. … Continue reading

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The Link Between Addiction and Control

The lives of addicts often reel out of control. Many feel ashamed and powerless over their addiction and many things in their lives. To counter their anxiety and attempt to gain some semblance of control in their lives, they try … Continue reading

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Letting Go of Denial

Denial is usually associated with rejecting or denying a certain state of affairs, or thinking or believing that things “aren’t so.” However, denial really encompasses much more than that; wishful thinking, turning a blind eye, and withdrawal, are just a … Continue reading

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A Valuable Key to a Healthier Heart

When my doctor checked my pulse and blood pressure at a recent physical exam, my pulse was only 47– well below the 60-80 norm—and my blood pressure was a healthy 98/68.  Admittedly, I exercise regularly, but leaving the doctor’s office … Continue reading

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10 Ways the Need to Control Hurts You

Many people call them control freaks.   Some call them controllers.  Others refer to them as nitpickers and micromanagers.  Whatever you call them, they all have one clear thing in common: The Need to Control. Hence, the subtitle of my book … Continue reading

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A Unique Benefit of Practicing Gratitude*

*Below is an article I wrote that was recently published in Tiny Buddha, a leading personal growth and inspiration blog. “Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all others”–Cicero Being grateful or practicing gratitude has … Continue reading

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The Trust–Control Dynamic

Have you ever thought about the connection or dynamic between control and trust?   Or more specifically, about how trust impacts our ability to let go of control?  To be truthful, I hadn’t given it much thought until I read and … Continue reading

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