In Losing Control, Finding Serenity, I explain how high expectations are a driving force behind our need to control our loved ones, children, friends and others. High expectations of others pressure them to do and be what we want, or what we feel is best for them. As such, we are imposing our will on them.
Have you considered how high expectations hurt you? Here are five significant ways:
- They create dissension in our close relationships.People resent it when we pressure them to be other than who they are or wish to be. We are in effect telling them they are “not good enough.” This leads to resentment and dissension, thus impacting our bonds and connection with them.