Category Archives: Relationships

5 Ways High Expectations Hurt You

In Losing Control, Finding Serenity, I explain how high expectations are a driving force behind our need to control our loved ones, children, friends and others. High expectations of others pressure them to do and be what we want, or … Continue reading

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5 Keys to Practicing “Acceptance”

An underlying theme of my book, Losing Control, Finding Serenity, is that acceptance is fundamental to reducing our need to control. Readers agree. The most highlighted sentence of Amazon’s best selling eBook version is: “The more we accept people and … Continue reading

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Should You Accept the “Unacceptable?”

PART ONE  In speaking with people about their acceptance stories for the new book I’m writing, The Blessings of Acceptance, I am often asked “why should I accept the unacceptable?”  My short response is, “You’ve already answered that by your … Continue reading

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Should You Tell Your Loved One About Your Past Addiction?

  Guest Post by Anne Southern Over 20 million Americans struggle with some form of substance addiction, whether to drugs or alcohol (this does not include the many million more who are also addicted to tobacco) Despite this huge body of … Continue reading

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Intentions for Accepting Others as They Are in 2017

As we begin a year of great uncertainty, and for many, great fear and anxiety, it is important to consider what we can do to bring greater peace and serenity into our lives and those we love.   For me, that … Continue reading

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Do Your Loved One’s Political Views Anger You?

The current divisive political climate becomes even more divisive when the political choices of our loved ones are contrary to our own.   For example, what if you are for Clinton, and they are for Trump?  If you are for … Continue reading

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Are You a Love Controller?

Love control obstructs the romantic flow.   It forces the action, rather than allowing the love currents to unfold naturally so that people can relax and just be themselves—and offer their love and kindness without pressure or expectations.  Simply put, most … Continue reading

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Acceptance, Expectations, and Control: Vital Links

There are vital links or connections between acceptance, expectations, and the need to control.   That’s why they are such an integral part of the discourse on this blog and in my book, Losing Control, Finding Serenity: How the Need to … Continue reading

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Does Accepting Others as They Are Really Help?

In these highly divisive, hectic, and chaotic times, accepting others as they are is more vital than ever to our overall well being and contentment. (See my post, “Five Good Reasons for Accepting People as They Are”).  This is confirmed by … Continue reading

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Two Keys to Accepting Your Love One As They Are

I’ve previously shared two keys to enhancing the love flow on Valentine’s Day: *Accepting your love one as they are, and *Moderating the expectations you have of them. In this post I would like to expand on the importance of “love … Continue reading

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