Category Archives: More

Accepting Your Foes Helps!*

Reading the above title, you may be thinking, “Why should I accept people who are trying to harm or cause me trouble?   They are the last people I would want to accept!” I know I used to feel that way. … Continue reading

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The Link Between Addiction and Control

The lives of addicts often reel out of control.   Many feel ashamed and powerless over their addiction and many things in their lives. To counter their anxiety and attempt to gain some semblance of control in their lives, they try … Continue reading

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Letting Go of Control Truths

“Let go of control. You never had it in the first place!” Not sure you agree?   Then, consider this: “If you always do what you always did, you always get what you always got. So let go of control to … Continue reading

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Letting Go of Denial

Denial is usually associated with rejecting or denying a certain state of affairs, or thinking or believing that things “aren’t so.” However, denial really encompasses much more than that; wishful thinking, turning a blind eye, and withdrawal, are just a … Continue reading

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A Valuable Key to a Healthier Heart

When my doctor checked my pulse and blood pressure at a recent physical exam, my pulse was only 47– well below the 60-80 norm—and my blood pressure was a healthy 98/68.  Admittedly, I exercise regularly, but leaving the doctor’s office … Continue reading

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10 Ways the Need to Control Hurts You

Many people call them control freaks.   Some call them controllers.  Others refer to them as nitpickers and micromanagers.  Whatever you call them, they all have one clear thing in common: The Need to Control. Hence, the subtitle of my book … Continue reading

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A Unique Benefit of Practicing Gratitude*

*Below is an article I wrote that was recently published in Tiny Buddha, a leading personal growth and inspiration blog. “Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all others”–Cicero Being grateful or practicing gratitude has … Continue reading

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The Confidence/Control Connection

I am always exploring the connections between our feelings and emotions, behavior patterns and our propensity to control—or not control–others and outcomes.   Certain control catalysts are quite clear—fear, anger, anxiety, for instance–and I have written about them extensively in this … Continue reading

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Control and Impermanence

One of the illusions about control is that many of us believe we can significantly alter or impact the natural flow of things, or as I like to say, “life’s natural currents.”  I write about the folly of control in … Continue reading

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Let Go of Your Blinders

The intensity of our controlling actions impairs our vision.   It puts “blinders” on us and we are unable to recognize the opportunities and make the choices that would improve our lives emotionally, spiritually, creatively, and financially. The dynamic is akin … Continue reading

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