Love control obstructs the romantic flow. It forces the action, rather than allowing the love currents to unfold naturally so that people can relax and just be themselves—and offer their love and kindness without pressure or expectations. Simply put, most people don’t like being told what to do, how to be, or how to act in matters of the heart. Do you?
And yet, if you were to ask a friend or your love one if they considered themselves a love controller, my guess is that they would likely say no. Are you a love controller? Let’s find out.
The Love Control Test (from Losing Control, Finding Serenity: How the Need to Control Hurts Us and How to Let It Go.)
Ask yourself the following:
*Do I usually feel I know what’s best for my partner?
*Do I charm or pout or withdraw to get my way?
*Am I often impatient with him or her?
*Do I try to solve his or her problems?
*Am I quick to point out my partner’s shortcomings?
*Do I expect my partner to do what I want?
*Do I look to the other person for my own happiness?
*Am I overly concerned that my partner will not be able to resolve his or her personal issues?
*Am I judgmental of him or her (be honest now!)?
“Yes” answers to these questions indicate you are trying to control the relationship. Now answer these questions:
*Do I listen attentively to my partner’s concerns without trying to solve them?
*Am I patient with his or her struggles?
*Am I willing to let my partner plan our vacations?
*Do I play a part in my love conflicts?
*Do I accept my partner’s annoying habits?
“Yes” answers to these questions indicate that you are not trying to control the relationship.
Is your love one a love controller? If so, please share with me the ways in which he or she tries to control your relationship?
In the meantime, remember to
Let It Go!
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