There are vital links or connections between acceptance, expectations, and the need to control. That’s why they are such an integral part of the discourse on this blog and in my book, Losing Control, Finding Serenity: How the Need to Control Hurts Us and How To Let It Go.
Here are some of the vital links:
*When we expect too much from others, we usually try to change or control them. We are also not accepting of how they are.
*When we don’t accept people as they are, we frequently try to change them through controlling means.
*When we try to change or control others, we are not accepting of them.
The consequences of the above actions invariably include resentment, conflict and dissension, anxiety, and damaged relationships.
*When we do accept others as they are, we do not feel the need to try to change or control them. Nor do we have unreasonable expectations of them. (See 5 Keys to Practicing “Acceptance”)
*When we moderate our expectations of others, it is much easier to accept them as they are, and feel much less need to try to change or control them. (See Let Go of Control by Moderating Your Expectations)
The consequences of the above actions include stronger bonds and relationships, greater trust and intimacy, and much more serenity for you—and others.
What links have you experienced between acceptance, expectations, and control? Please share them with me.
In the meantime, remember to
Let It Go!
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